Wow! today's topic is on love. "SO what attracts you to your current boyfriend or girlfriend?" (FOR THOSE SINGLE..LIKE ME)" WHAT attract you to one particular guy or girl?"
There are many different kinds of reason why you choose the 'Right' person and simply not others.
- is it because of similarity?
-is it because you want someone to cover your flaws?
OR is it because you are just too bored of yourself, you need someone different as your partner?
NEXT,
what the reason you want to get involve in a relationship?
- boredom? -company? -lonely? - someone to love you? -contentment? -?????????? (well, seems like the above are all similar.... SAME!)
ISn't it something interesting to think about. WELL, THAT IS WHAT WE DID FOR COMMS LECTURE THIS WEEK. HOWEVER, we also went through a whole process of a relationship.
Talking about this: i remember one pastor mentioning about his view on love relationship.(couples). He thinks: In the beginning, when we are attract to one another and deeply in love. It will be I LOVE YOU. YOU LOVE ME. then when we take our vows as husband and wife, girlfriend and boyfriend( if there is any vows), as time goes by, we are sick of looking at each other face. In the end we fight. and now, those I LOVE YOU. YOU LOVE ME will turn into I HATE YOU. YOU HATE ME. not long, someone will say: " YOU GO TO HELL." and the other one will reply: " YOU GO FIRST!" LIKEWISE; this is similar to what was taught in the lecture. Knapp model of relational development. In Knapp's model: stage 1 - 5 : getting to together( knowing each other from well to even better; intergrating-kiss...etc, bonding as one..) stage 6-10: coming apart.(quarrel, finding faults, hating one another, breaking up, terminating relationship forever.) Well, thought of the day: is it true that all relationships have to go through all stages? can't it just stop at stage 5? AND AND AND what stage ARE YOU IN? ( that is if you have a partner, for singles like me... we are still at stage 1... hahaha) WHile thinking, ENJOY the short video posted below that proves my pastor's story and knapp's model correct. what do you think? will your relationship be a different one? tell me. say. don't let knapp gets all the fame. credits to: youtube for video lecture notes my pastor Mr knapp Brought to you by: eileen, who is depress that she is turning 20 soon, and is studying hard for her exams.
